5 Things a Straight Girl Should Never Ask a Gay Guy About Sex
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Frequently Asked Questions
So, Like, Are You a Top or a Bottom?
This Question Feels Like Jelly Sandals—out of Style, And, Honestly, Sorta Juvenile. the Truth Is Many Gay Men Don't Want to Label Themselves by Whether or Not They Enjoy Giving or Receiving Anal Sex. Also, Many of Us Don't Want to Feel Trapped Inside the Binary Construct of Being Either This or That. I May Love Mimosas 99% of the Time at Brunch, But, Now and Again, I Enjoy a Blood Mary. and I Really Don't Want to Have to Explain That to Crystal in Accounting, Okay?
Have You Ever Had Sex with a Girl?
Whether the Answer Is Yes or No, We Still Are Gay. Save the 'I Can't Imagine You Doing Thats' for Your Friend Who's Dabbling in Veganism. Youth Is About Experimentation and We've All Moved On. Would You Want Me to Ask You the Specifics of That Time You Went to Sloppy Third with Your Glue-Sniffing Next Door Neighbor?
What Happens If Two Tops (Or Bottoms) Get Together Before They Realize That They, Gasp, Play the Same Role?
They Make Like a Dealer and They Deal. We All Have Things We Like in Bed (Spitting?) and with Each New Partner, We Have to Figure It Out. Sometimes We Make It Work and Sometimes We Don't or Can't.
So, Do Gay Men Have Sex All the Friggin' Time or What?
Sometimes Yes. Sometimes No. but Please Don't Hypersexualize Us. I Promise You That I've Had to Ask for a Blowjob While Waiting for Domino's Pizza on Date Night, Too. Gays and Straights Are Not So Different, You Guys!
The More Feminine-Seeming Guy Is Totally the Bottom, Right?
The Idea That One Person in a Same-Sex Relationship Has to Be More Masculine Than the Other Is So Antiquated. in Case You Hadn't Heard, It's 2015: the Most Swishy Guys Love to Top and the Most Butch Guys Want to Bottom. the Notion That I Can't Love the Philadelphia Eagles but Also Enjoy a Smash Marathon Is Straight-up Tired.
